MESSAGE FORUM

MESSAGE FORUM

Post Message

Prior Page

10/12/14 07:13 AM

#107

Maria de Melo (Gulla)

Dear Classmates:

NO, ABSOLUTELY NOT! www.newbedfordhigh65 is not a social media website. It's a closed site. It's not Facebook where the public can see your posts and respond or not. On social media friends of friends can see posts ( and total strangers can view your posts depending on your privacy settings) NBHS'65 posts can only be seen by members of our class. That's about 320 people who have access to our website. Only about half of those members visit the website regularly. My point is that this is a place where our members can voice their thoughts and feel safe . To publish these posts without each individual's consent would violate that sense of privacy. If they wanted it known to the general community, they would have posted their experiences elsewhere. As one of the administrators, I feel that supporting our classmates comes first . We wish to keep the class connected and enjoy the best of our collective memories or empathize when they were wronged. I think we are on our way to accomplishing that. We cannot fix NBHS now, that's up to current residents.

The subject of how Mr. Carreiro treated some of his students was shared among us, not in a letter to the editor in a newspaper, radio talk show or the public media. We should respect that privacy and keep it here. If those individuals wish to make their feelings known in a public arena or on facebook that's their choice, but we administrators will not copy and publish their comments.Yes, I'm familiar with the "Crucible." This is not the same thing. We are not placing anyone in danger as the girls in Salem did, we are sharing among classmates and friends and keeping it here. Anyone who shared their sorrow here is to be admired and respected.

I have devoted my adult life to education. I care about all kids being safe. The fact that a link about New Bedford school policies (can be copied and posted on the subject line to be accessed) was shared proves that policies are in place for students now to voice complaints safely. It's not up to us to monitor them from all over the country. We can monitor our families and friends and offer support. I will not violate a confidence and I feel that these posts are a way for these classmates to find some closure. At this point, no legal repercussions will take place. Mr. Carreiro is gone. Those who suffered hopefully can air their grievances and find closure.

This is not about innocent until proven guilty or anything like that. People cannot charge Mr Carreiro with anything at this point but hopefully their can begin to feel it's behind them and enjoy the present. I chose to remember the best of high school but I also had awful disappointments. I shared quite a bit in the Various Topics page and learned that many of our classmates who seemed so happy then had serious problems too and in a way, it made me feel that we didn't always know the pain behind smiles then. But we survived and for me, the best of times is now.

10/12/14 09:17 AM

#108

Thomas Sweeney

<<Perhaps one of us ought to print out this forum and mail it to the current NB Superintendent of schools and ask him/her what the NB school system is doing today to prevent this type of behavior by current teachers.>>

Rick, I think the discussion so far has been about our experiences in the early 60's, which are...our experiences. It has been made very clear that the world was different then, and I fail to see how making public our discussions will do anything to help. If you wish to do something for today's students, you can certainly pursue this without referencing something that happened 50 years ago. Just get active in today's world.

Bill, I understand your reluctance to speak ill of the dead, and you have the right not to, but others have the right to speak of their experiences.

10/12/14 10:42 AM

#109

Dave Medeiros

All -

Let's not lose site of the fact that the NBHS Class of '65 website is a private website available only to the registered members of the Class of '65. It was developed to give NBHS Class of '65 classmates (and a select few 'guests') an opportunity to reconnect and share memories of their high school days and their experiences since graduation. It is not for public view or to be 'shared' with those outside of its membership. Each of you is certainly entitled to voice your opinion, but you may not share the thoughts or comments of others outside of the website, there are other 'social media' sources available for those who chose to do so for that purpose. The passing of one of our former instructors has brought out some hurtful memories. We cannot 'judge' the depth of those feelings; we can merely be supportive and understanding. All that they had written was done so in belief that their comments would be 'secure and safe'. Let us not be judgemental. Let us not betray that trust!

An old Indian (native American) proverb goes something like this:

Until you have walked a mile in my moccasins, will you then know my journey.

Let's move on! Our 50th reunion is a mere 10 months away!

10/12/14 03:22 PM

#110

Christine Izyk (Gaspar)

Enough!

10/12/14 04:02 PM

#111

Joseph Ribeiro

I agree with with a great many of these statements. Shared memories are what this site is for: good, bad, or indifferent they all need to be heard but then move on. We all had are share of good and bad teachers and if I saw any of them today walking down the street I would thank the good ones and give them a hug. I the others I would tell them exactly what I thought of them. In our day we were thought to show respect for our elders. Even if they were incompetent. Once I got out of high school I realalized I did not have to do that. I'm glad that these girls, now woman, can bring their experiences forth and I hope it brings them some peace and closure.

10/12/14 04:49 PM

#112

Athena Medeiros (Adams)

I am with Chris Izyk:

ENOUGH.....Let's move on!!!!!

10/12/14 06:13 PM

#113

Barbara Fernandes (Lanagan)

PLease lets just stop this madness!!! enough is enough ..we spoke our 2 cents worth..we are not here to do anything else..BILL FISKE TAKE A HIKE...we dont need anymore desertations! The man is dead and gone and now the rest of us are at peace. How's the weather? And those of you who live in california or where ever butt out on this current admin they have enough problems...We get it Bill......and I was worried for the site not about me...thats why I deleted my original posts.... amen.

10/13/14 11:37 PM

#114

Nancy Otis (Cusson)

Everyone on this site is provided the right to post. Positive, negative, it is what this site is about. Once you post a remark, you know you will get responses. Either ignore or respond, and whatever comes you asked for it...Then you can keep up the dialogue or ignore.... We are a unique group of people, many different beleifs by all. And all are to be respected. Just lets remember....Whatever you post is what you beleive, and you have a right to post it...If you do not like it ignore it....No need to remove it... Plans for the 50th coming soon.....

10/14/14 01:28 PM

#115

Nancy Otis (Cusson)

Dear Rick, After several calls from people who do not appreciate your posting on our site, I think it is best you refrain from doing so anymore. You are a guest and not a member of our class. Sorry it came to this.

10/15/14 05:39 AM

#116

Linda Dias (Caulkins)

This post is directed to Rick Dias. You are not a member of our class, and have been allowed on the site as a guest. While I feel that all our classmates should feel free to post their thoughts on this site, it does not give you the right to use this site as a platform to make comments. This is a private site where our classmates are allowed to post their comments.

As a guest you are not entitled to comment on subjects that should only be discussed among our classmates.

The fact that you took it upon yourself to call one of our classmates regarding comments made here borders on harassment. How dare you, You did not attend New Bedford High, and I for one resent the comments made here. We are aware that our New Bedford school system has had it share of issues and hopefully is working towards correcting them.

Please use the Voke website for your preaching. Since you attended Voke than you should post on their website. It has been many years since you lived in New Bedford

I for one would revoke your guest status.

Remember a good guest is one that you do not know is here.

10/15/14 07:26 AM

#117

Margaret Aulisio

I just wanted to say that I was able to forward the forum messages to someone in my
family who went to NBHS but was not in our class. She could read up to the place where
you had to click for "more." So people can see the names and beginning sentences.
I do not remember this teacher. I did not have him. But I think it is really helpful for women to be able to share their bad experiences like this with others and find out that they had them too. It would not be fair or just for him to get away with it or
with a positive obituary like that, which either he or someone in his family apparently wrote. It's better for the truth to come out. It is just too bad no one was aware of it when we were in school and that he continued to teach. It would be a good idea to
reach out to other classes and see if other alumni who had him had similar experiences. We are now all just finding out about his behavior to members of our class, but not
to girls who had him other years that he taught.

10/15/14 05:10 PM

#118

Jack (John) Nunes

Nancy, Linda, Barbara ,

10/16/14 12:41 PM

#119

Edna Rezendes (Walsh)

As a test, i used an app on my computer, to capture and grab my comment on this site. I then sent it to a family member, not in any way connected to NBHS. They received it. NOTHING is safe and secure on the internet. William Fiske was dead on about that.

10/17/14 10:47 AM

#120

Barbara Fernandes (Lanagan)

I know nothing is safe..in fact as we hAve experienced the Internet can be evil...I don't think people should be forwarding posts from this forum to anyone...I never even considered that as an option..thank you for your heads up..I for one have learned a valuable lesson and not a positive one

10/17/14 10:52 AM

#121

Martha Eastwood (Ragan)

Adding to Edna, you can just copy and paste the comment into Word, add that attachment to your email and voila.....there it goes.

10/17/14 12:24 PM

#122

Nancy Otis (Cusson)

I really do not think anyone was evil.. Just a topic that got to hot to handle....Never post anything, thinking you will not get a response. After all this is a message forum..... I to would never think of sending a post from here to someone who was not in our class, just saying....

10/18/14 08:45 AM

#123

Maria de Melo (Gulla)

Hello all:

Mr. Dias has left our website and we wish him well. A little background: Several of us who lived in the North end and attended Normandin Junior HIgh knew him. He was close friends with a few of our classmates and that's why when he found out about this website he contacted the administrators to be allowed to join as a guest member. We have several other guest members who are also close to many of our classmates, and I'm sure that if they chose to comment on class events or a shared post, their comments would be welcome. I don't think our current guest members have they type of personality Mr. Dias has. I'm sure that most of us will respect each other's privacy and not share without permission, or make phone calls that are not welcome. We can send private messages to each other. There is a link under the profile picture window that allows private messages.

To my classmates, I am looking forward to our 50th reunion . I know we will enjoy more wonderful memories.

10/18/14 01:31 PM

#124

Linda Dias (Caulkins)

Well said Maria.

10/19/14 08:23 PM

#125

Nancy Otis (Cusson)

I have now received a message that one of our classmates does not want to receive any of these posts. he want's to be removed from the site.....please everyone stop posting about this subject... It is over already!!!!!

10/19/14 11:35 PM

#126

Steven Quail

Today is the tomorrow you worried about yesterday. Stop the crazy stuff on our site.

STEVE Q...

10/21/14 03:02 PM

#127

David Pacheco

Here is suggestion for our 50th reunion. He is unique in his style and is enjoyable and I think he would fit in either at our dinner or any event we decide on. Do you have any suggestions for our 50th?? I may post several more.

Here is link to a trivia person who is very entertaining, I have seen in at clubs and I sometimes listen to him on WBZ 1030 radio - he now has a show on Saturday nights from 10-midnight
http://www.triviamorganwhitejr.com/

10/21/14 04:48 PM

#128

Nancy Barrett/Breton

Thank You for your imput David,

Personally , I would want to spend my 50th focusing on my classmates and socializing with them. I WOULD NOT WANT this" state of the art", trivis person dominating the evening. Would love however, to support him in another place and time related to the class of 65.

Just my opinion and keep that thought,

Nancy (Breton) Barrett

10/22/14 09:10 AM

#129

Eileen Soucy (Caron)

I agree with Nancy. the only suggestion I have is to have enough seating for people. While I enjoyed the 45th, I was dismayed that the idea was not to sit but to circulate. Unformately, that wasn't a possibility for me as I was recovering from a serious accident. I think there may be others who are not very mobile at the next reunion.

10/22/14 01:25 PM

#130

Nancy Barrett/Breton

At my husband's 50th class reunion, the committee did a marvelous power point presentation of a flash from their school past and a great tribute to all of those that have lost their lives over the years. It held the interest of everyone in the room.

I agree that we all need a place to eat and rest our old bones but I also feel that those of us that are mobile need to circulate, especially to those that are unable to get around. I was at a table with Patricia Rodrigues(Dragon) for our 45th. Pat went through some very rough times in April. She was hospitalized for two months. I can not say enough good things about Quincy Medical Center. She came out of there walking with a walker. She had not walked since she was mid 30's. They also greatly reduced her meds because she was over medicated. I hope she can WALK into our reunion next year, She does not have a computer but I can print out any good wishes you might want to send her way.

Best wishes to all ,

Nancy Barrett (Breton)

10/25/14 08:50 AM

#131

Sheila Rogers (Allen)

I agree with Nancy concerning entertainment , the stars of the evening should be our former classmates. And please chairs for everyone , one only knows what condition we will be in next year and I myself if I'm standing too long , I'll get tired and leave early. Can't wait to see everyone

Post Message

Prior Page